Christian dating a non christian what to do
I understand the temptation to believe that dating non-Christians is okay.In fact, I get why so many young women have been deceived into thinking that it is a potentially wonderful missions opportunity.If they are not down with respecting you for taking this season in your life to grow more as a woman, then you need to pray for them that they may understand your heart and that you are letting yourself be prepared for your future husband.When you are not equally yoked to a believer of a very close maturity level in your relationship with Christ and when you don’t have a very similar philosophy on how to live your life, then you should not enter into a relationship with that person.(I actually fell for this one myself as a high school and college-aged woman.) But since I now understand how important it is that we understand God’s truth on this subject, I decided to recruit a friend of mine to be a voice of reason. He just happens to be a handsome, funny college student who is currently serving as the youth ministry intern at my church. How do we convince them that they should only date Christians?I asked him to read the parts of this blog where young women were talking about dating non-Christians. ” I think that Brice’s insights on this topic are wise and thought-provoking, and they may just be exactly what you need to hear as you search for truth in this area of your lives.If they don’t have a relationship with Christ, you shouldn’t be yoked to them. Before I left for camp that summer, I gave her a Bible and she gave me a journal and we said goodbye. She had made plans for where she wanted to live, what she wanted to do 15 years down the road, and I still have no idea what I’ll be doing after I graduate from college or when I’ll graduate.I went off to college and told all my buddies, “I’m going to find a nice Christian girl and get married to her.” Well, I meet a girl my freshman year who was really sweet, loved the Lord, and liked doing fun stuff. I prayed about it a few weeks later, and God told me I had jumped the gun and that we should break up. I thought all I needed to do was get to know her and once I knew her pretty well that we could date with the idea in both of our heads that the end result would be marriage. The point I am trying to make here is that even when a guy is a strong Christian at a similar maturity level as you are, there are other factors that must be considered such as your views on spending and saving money.
I am very excited to be able to share my thoughts since they will be coming from a young Christian man’s perspective to a female audience. To start off with, I will tell you about a few of my own personal dating experiences.
What I was doing with this new girlfriend was taking my eyes off of God and focusing on the really pretty girl.
Well, this really pretty girl and I made out a lot … There were some moments when we got far too close to a line that should not be crossed until marriage.
Our relationship ended after she wrote me a letter telling me she thought I was the one for her, and I told her I wasn’t. Our focus even as good Christian kids was on each other and not on God and how we were to be obedient to Him in His service. The girl I dated for 15 months was a great girl and a strong Christian, but we were not equally yoked.
I had been called into ministry a year and a half earlier, and I knew that she would not give me the support I would need in ministry. The bottom line from that story is DO NOT WASTE your time, emotions, money, and most of all your heart on someone who is not a Christian. She completely withdrew from me, which really hurt. It seemed like the Lord was restoring our relationship. I don’t remember consulting the Lord on that decision either. She had a completely different way she wanted to live her life than I did when it came to serving the Lord.
Looking back, I thank the Lord for protecting my purity and the purity of the girls in those relationships. My senior year of high school, a junior girl caught my eye.